RENEW yourself and your life !

Here is something I learn long time ago from a friend. This one is great. I hope it helps.

R = RELAX release the fear doubt worry etc and clear the space
E = EXPECT have total faith in the process . Confidently expect that whatever you see feel affirm and claim within will manifest without
N = NOTE note what you don’t want and then note get really clear what you do want
E = ENVISION Vividly imagine visualize the desired outcome as if it already happened get right into it. FEEL it in every cell
W = WITHDRAW release the vision into the ether with total faith it will manifest suspend all doubt and WATCH, LISTEN AND FEEL. TRUST intuition to guide you on the path of least resistance

That’s RENEW !

Try it my friends, it works. Need a bit of discipline but it works.

Lessons for a better life – 2

Want to sleep like a King tomorrow? Sleep like a King tonight!

I have asked so many times, “What do you want?”

The answers I received were:

• Happiness
• Inner peace
• Joy
• Satisfaction
• Health
• Love
• Compassion
• Love of others
• Respect
• Enlightenment
• Wisdom
• Will power
• Focus

… And so on.

My answer to all of them is the first sentence. Want to live like a King tomorrow? Sleep like a King tonight. You don’t need to find that outside. It’s within. Today you are what you wished to be yesterday. Tomorrow will be what you sleep like tonight.

Tonight you sleep, with faith in your own self, with the wisdom you desire and you will see you wake up with it. Whilst you are sleeping, you mind will dig out that information for you. It’s there inside somewhere and this stands true for everything.

It’s not a matter of finding the right answers. It’s the matter of finding right questions. We have the answers but we don’t know the questions.

Seek answers within and not without.

Here is a little exercise for those interested to experience the overnight phenomenon. When go to bed and are ready and relaxed to finally sleep into the dream world. Knock your head three times gently on pillow where you rest your head. Ask a question or offer a situation that you need an insight into. Knock your head three times gently again on the pillow and go to sleep.

When you wake up, don’t ask me how, but you will most likely have the answer. If not direct, there will be clues for you to understand. Either in form of dream, some vision or plain good old bright spark flashing across you mind. Intuition, inspiration, an ad in the newspaper, comments by people around you, something will flash the answer to you.

Those of you who do this please do share the experience.

What Love Really Means

When couples come to me for pre-marital counseling, I sometimes ask: “Why do you want to get married?”  Whatever else, they say, they always give me the big reason; and the big reason is always the same.  What do they say?  “We love each other.”  Then I ask a very unfair question:  “Tell me, what do you mean by that?”  There is silence.  Then, one will say, “Oh… you know!” I guess maybe I do know.  I think they are talking about a euphoric emotion that makes them oblivious to reality.  They are the happiest they have ever been. What they don’t know is that the euphoric feelings will last for two years and then they must find another foundation for marriage.  Wouldn’t it be better to explore that foundation before they get married? Love is a choice. What is love?  One definition says, “Love is the feeling that you feel when you feel a feeling like you’ve never felt before.”  If that is your definition of love, I can tell you, that kind of love will never lead you to a life-long marriage.  The euphoric feels are temporary.  It is interesting that in Eph. 5:25 husbands are commanded to love their wives.  If the intense feelings of love were permanent, why would God command a husband to love his wife? The fact is, they are not permanent and love is not a feeling, but an attitude, with appropriate behavior.  Love is the attitude which says, “I’m married to you, so what can I do to help you?  Love is choosing to be kind, and supportive.  Is that your attitude? Love is a way of life. Most people get married based on love.  However their concept of love often focuses on feelings.  I read one definition which said, “Love is a four-letter word composed of two consonants, L and V; two vowels, O and E; and two fools, you and me.”  There is some truth to that, and fools often make poor decisions. In the Bible, love is not a euphoric feeling, but a way of life.  In Titus chapter two the older women are instructed to teach the young wives to love their husbands.  This implies that love can be learned.  It is not something that happens to you.  It is something you choose.  Once you choose to love, then you look for appropriate ways to express it.  This kind of love will lead you to a life-long productive marriage. Love is powerful. Would you like to know what love looks like in a marriage?  Then, turn to I Corinthians chapter 13.  Listen to these words: “Love is patient and kind; is not arrogant or rude; it does not insist on it’s own way; it is not resentful; Love does not bring up past failures, but chooses to forgive.”  Does this describe your attitude and treatment of your spouse? This is the kind of love that makes for happy marriages.  Love focuses on meeting the needs of the spouse; helping them succeed; listening to their thoughts and feelings.  In short, it is giving your life away for your spouse.  That is precisely what Christ did for us, and it is what husbands are instructed to do for their wives.  Love is powerful. Love can be learned. “I don’t love her anymore.”  How many times have I heard that in my office!  What is that supposed to mean?  Usually, it means that he has lost the euphoric feelings he had for her when they got married.  And that their differences have emerged and ended in arguments.  The fact is, everyone loses the euphoric feelings.  They usually last for only two years. Then, we must learn to love.  We must choose to treat each other with respect.  We must listen to differences of opinion and try to find a solution.  We must learn to work together as a team; using our differences for the benefit of the team. This attitude is commanded by God.  To say, “I don’t love her anymore,” is admitting that you are breaking God’s command.

Adapted from The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman. To find out more about Dr. Chapman’s resources, visit www.5lovelanguages.com.

Lessons for a better life

One can’t give what one doesn’t have.

John was stressed. He tries many things prescribed to him to break from the stress and he still could not.

One day, casually chatting over a drink in the evening, I asked him “What is it John that stresses you out so much?”

“I don’t know” he said.

I asked him, “Is it the job?”
He said, “No”
“Friends?”
“No”
“Family?”
“No”
“Children?”
“No”

“Then what is it John?”
“I don’t know” he replied with honesty, “I really don’t know.”

“John, tell me one thing. Are you afraid of something?” He thinks for a while, finishing his remaining drink, pointing for another one. Head tucked down, eyes closed. When the next drink arrived, he raised his head, one sip and with some shiver in his voice he started “You know what? I am, in reality afraid. I am afraid of failing. I am afraid of not being able to stand by my little family. I am afraid I will not be able to give what I want, to my wife, to my kids to my friends.”

He went on, “I am afraid that one day, I will not be able to give that security, that happiness and that love to them.” He stopped. I could see the shimmer of tears in his eyes. Tears he held back but fear was pouring out from all over.

It was the fear that caused the stress in his life. This stress was affecting his peace of mind and hence adversely affecting his work, his relationship and his stable family.

This is very typical of the society that we live in. From the genuine love and affection for ones own family and friends, the fear of failure rises and before even you know, it manifests into reality. Fear brings weakness. Weakness brings failure. Weakness means defeat before even giving a fight.

Solution is simple. Once again, ask yourself, what is it that you are afraid of? Afraid of, being a failure to your family? Failing in what? Failing in giving them happiness and love?

Well you can’t give that if you don’t have it yourself in the first place. Fear will take all that away from you. You will be left with no peace, no love and no happiness. Then how will you be able to give it to you family?

Remember you are made of your family. On your own you are nothing. So instead of trying to make them happy, make yourself happy first and this will automatically bring them happiness. Since you are made of them, whatever else makes you, will benefit also benefit from what you do to yourself. You choose to suffer, they will suffer too. You choose to be happy, they will be happy too. Don’t ignore the most important thing in your life. ‘You’ are the most important thing your life.

Do this exercise: Every morning when you wake up, before jumping off your bed, put your hands on your eyes, say to yourself, “Today I choose to be happy. So let me be happy and this way all that makes me, will be happy too.”  Take a deep breath and slowly open your eyes, step off and begin your day.

Let me know what you experience.

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PS: The above is from a series of article I had written long ago, for an organisation wanting help people break free from fears. I just found them and will post a select few here.

Three Monkeys

3 Monkeys

In my younger days, I was taught the lessons learnt from the famous ‘three monkeys’. I always wondered, how come we have to learn from monkeys? Aren’t we supposed to be more intelligent than them?

Well never challenged the authority and still I don’t. I have realised that it’s better to find your own simpler ways of understanding life rather than conforming or confronting the established belief system.

In modern times I see people suffering from something that always took me long to explain. By the time the explanation was over, listeners and readers would lose interest.

Last night, I had inspiration that gave me the following interpretation of the three monkeys in modern times. Rather then they representing wisdom, they represent the lack of it. They still remain the wise monkeys but by mocking what we are doing, these monkeys are reflecting our mistakes and the pain that we suffer from that. So here is the new interpretation:

Original :

• The monkey with mouth covered: Speak no Evil
• The monkey with ears covered: Hear no Evil
• The monkey with eyes covered: See no Evil

My Version:

First of all I call it as the “Three Monkey Syndrome”. All those who are suffering can be labelled as suffering this three monkey syndrome:

• The monkey with mouth covered: I won’t express my true feelings
• The monkey with ears covered: I won’t listen to the message from Universe
• The monkey with eyes covered: I won’t see the reality

Well this inspiration is pretty new and I guess I will need to refine it further more. Till then, hope you enjoy this different interpretation of three monkeys and maybe contribute towards refining it and making it more contemporary.